4 Ways I Built My Confidence; And You Can Too!
FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT
This is a common phrase, but it’s commonality doesn’t make it any less of a true statement. Sometimes, we have to fake confidence to grow a solid foundation of faith in ourselves. I remember getting promoted in a job and I had no experience. I was very insecure about my lack of experience, but one day, a coworker said something to me that I never will forget. When I asked him how he did his job so effortlessly, he looked at me and said, “Girl, I don’t know what I’m doing. I just fake it.” That’s when it dawned on me that I needed to learn the job as quickly and effectively as I could and fake my confidence in my position. Months later, I received great feedback about my calm and capable role in the position. Later, I was no longer faking it – I was confident in my position.
Life Is Short
This is a biggie. Everyday, this statement crosses my mind: life is short. This statement inspires me to be who I am authentically and unapologetically. Okay, now you’re probably saying, but that doesn’t fit with number one. Hear me out. When we fake it, the goal is to eventually become and exude the qualities that are unique to us. Faking it is just temporary. There is only one you and if you have gifts or talents you can offer the world, display them! The world is truly your stage, but one day we look around and the curtains will be closing on us. Don’t let the curtains close before you get to show up in the world the way you always imagined.
Surround Yourself With Positivity
Surround yourself with people, places, things, and information that are positive. If you are around people that put you down, kick them to the curb. If you’re consuming information that’s negative and doesn’t reinforce the growth you want to see for yourself, make changes. I used to consume a ton of negative information. Now, I listen to motivational content, audio books, positive affirmations, anything that helps reinforce and build my confidence.
Sometimes we even have to remove ourselves from family until we build enough confidence to engage with them without stifling our progress. This can be hard at first, but this will benefit your confidence and your mental health in the long run.
Don’t Break Promises You make to Yourself
We spend an excessive amount of time seeking to build credibility with others, but not for ourselves. I have personally spent a great deal of time making sure that I show up for other people, but neglected to show up for myself. When we make a promise to ourselves, we have to work hard to keep it. This builds confidence and faith in ourselves. If you made a promise to yourself to write a book, write it. If you promised yourself you wouldn’t go to happy hour everyday, don’t.
It is inevitable that we will break a promise to ourselves. The difference between people that build success and confidence with themselves is that they may take a hit, but their recovery time is short. The goal is to ultimately build enough credibility with yourself so that you build a strong enough foundation of unshatterable confidence.