3 WAYS TO COMBAT FEAR AND LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST
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2020 was a year filled with fear and loss. As I look back over the year, I realize that yet again, I let fear take over. 2021 is here and I’m ready to redefine my relationship with fear. Reading books like, Meera Lee Patel’s, My My friend Fear, has helped me realize that my relationship with fear doesn’t have to be a negative one. We can let fear help inform us of what we desire. However, when fearful doubt starts to creep into our thoughts, try these three ways to combat them.
Identify the Worst Case Scenario
Think to yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Often our brains trick us into fearing things that we rationally shouldn’t be afraid of. Fear is a basic emotion that resides in the amygdala of the brain which is the oldest and primal part of our brains. Fear kicks in to protect us from potential dangers. Now, we have our modern brain, or what is called the frontal cortex, to facilitate problem solving and judgment. This addition to the modern brain can help us decide whether the signals or instincts from the amygdala are valid.
I’m personally afraid of heights to the point where even standing on a balcony is terrifying. However, I tell myself that the odds of this concrete and beams falling is very slim. I take a deep breath, walk out and enjoy the view. Always look at the facts and make sure there is a reason to be afraid.
Don’t Wait For Perfection
Don’t wait to become flawless. If you wait, trust me, you will never accomplish anything. No one is perfect. Although we should always aim to try our best, we will not always get it right, and guess what? That’s okay. My blogging isn’t perfect or my shotty podcast recordings. Despite that, I enjoy it. Waiting to have all the bells and whistles or all of the knowledge isn’t necessary. We learn through trial and error. Go out there and try!
Try The Five-Second Rule
A while back I was watching an interview with Mel Robbins and she told a story about being unmotivated. Every night she told herself that she would get out of bed and conquer the day, but the mornings rolled by and she realized that she just wasn’t able to bring herself to do it. One day she saw a rocket on TV and noticed the countdown to blast off. She told herself that she would count backward from 5 and just blast out of bed like those rockets. Afterward, she did start getting up by counting down. From there she started to follow The 5 Second Rule. Later she would find out that there is real science behind this method.
When you are afraid to do something that you know your brain is being irrational about, countdown from 5 and just do it. This method has helped me again and again.
WE ALL HAVE FEARS, BUT WE DON’T HAVE TO LET FEAR HAVE ALL THE POWER. – YG